25May/11Off
How is it that people have the courage to self-harm?
I saw a film once, and they put in special effects for a woman who was slitting her wrists. I threw up watching that. I just don't understand how people have the courage to cut themselves and other ways of self-harm. I just could never ever bring myself to do something like that, no matter how crap my life got.
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
I would not use the word "courage" to describe the act of self-harm. As someone who spent years cutting myself, I can tell you that it doesn’t take courage to cut yourself, it takes utter desperation. It doesn’t take guts to put a blade to your skin, it just takes feeling like you are backed into a corner and have no other way to keep your head above water. It’s not an act of courage, it’s a savage act meant to be an emergency life-saver, the way someone would cut their own leg off if it was stuck in a bear trap.
What takes courage is STOPPING the cycle of self-harm, and addressing the issues that caused you to self-harm in the first place. What took courage wasn’t picking the knife up… it was putting the knife down. To stop hurting yourself and start talking about why you were hurting yourself, to free those secrets and tame those emotions and take your life back, that is a courageous act. I commend anyone who has done it, and anyone who is trying to, including myself. It is a hard-fought battle that comes with many scars.
I hope that gives you a little bit of insight into something that you find very difficult to understand. I’m glad that you find it hard to understand – it means you probably aren’t going to fall into that addictive cycle in the future. Take care.
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
When I did it, I was so upset and "in the moment" that I didn’t care how it felt. I always felt like I deserved it and that I was crap. It still hurts, but it hurts the most afterwards.
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
It’s easy for you to say that now, but you never know how far you’d go until you were actually in that situation.
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
it’s not courage, i used to think that, but when i did, i just felt so violent and upset, and that i deserved it as well as thinking the pain would take away the other pain, after the first time, it just became easier, i found it like an addiction, i won’t go graphic but the feel of it just felt good. anyway, it’s not courage.
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
When you feel so miserable. The idea of it sort of excites you. After a while it can become addictive – like a drug. So when you’re low, you need a shot of pain. You do it, and it feels so good. But then after you’ve finished, you feel worse than you did before. Especially when the blood has scabbed over or scarred. And you look at yourself remember the emotional pain, and feel awful – reminding yourself.
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
I’ve cut my stomach..before i was like"Hell no i wont do it" but life got hard and when i did it i was there and i felt okay because it was like letting the deamons out of your system…
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
its all in the moment. it is what we want it is not courage. we dont fear the pain or the blade
May 25th, 2011 - 10:11
It is not courage that gets them to do it, it is cowardice. Bravery/courage is a different breed.
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