18Jul/11Off
How can I get rid of my sexual thoughts?
I have had similar sexual thoughts since i was a teenager and I believe i am breaking my urge and habit of masterbating whenever i am alone and when my thoughts are on these images; i believe i am really over obssessed perverted with these images and thoughts. I do not want to masterbate as i believe it is an insult to my girlfriend. These images are almost always in my mind.
How can I train myself not to think of them?
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
attach some electrodes to your penis and then tie them into you brain some how, (you have to figure that one out or you can just do it manually) but every time you have a thought shock your penis and eventually you will be fine
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
Long walks and cold showers, otherwise you can just accept that you’re perfectly normal, and what you choose to do in your spare time is your choice.
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
Woah! Insult to your girlfriend… Honey… Its completely natural to masturbate… SHE DOES IT TOO< YOU PROBABLY JUST DONT KNOW ABOUT IT! But I can Guarantee you she does! Nothing is wrong with it. Sounds to me like you are a very visual person, which also eludes passion. So if you are so passionate why dont you apply this passion towards something else productive such as art, or reading. You could paint something beautiful when you have such a visual mind. Go for it, and good luck!
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
you can’t, they will always be with you. Though if you just don’t make fuss about it in your head, they won’t be as frequent. Masterbation is healthy but maybe you can share that with your girlfriend, and do it together….good luck… ;)
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
you’re a guy. guy’s always have those kinds of thoughts. guys masturbate, girlfriend or not. i dont know how to tell you not to think of them because i believe its natural for guys to think about the kind of stuff that makes them masturbate. try thinking of something you wouldnt wanna masturbate to, like family members, or gross stuff. hope this helps! :D
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
get into them deeper, and at some point u will get so tired and sick of them that ur totally saturated. lol
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
The problem is you have nothing to do except sitting here and there to think about it. Get more exercise and keep you busy for a while . You will see your life has alot of thing to worry and need to be resolved. Not optimistic at all time.
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
What images are you thinking of?!
If you’re dreaming them, evidently you just are craving those hard situations.
Thus, why don’t you just try to perform them together your g/f?!
I believe sex should be a free and open thing and there must be no secrets with our lover or partner.
Nothing is bad or naughty in the sex!
You are lucky to have (already) a g/f, so we both should set free your sexuality with no limit, deprivation or shame.
A good relation should require a satisfactory sexual agreement too!
In your case, the problem aren’t your sexual dreams but just the reason why you’re getting them and why you aren’t then able to concretise (fulfil) them!
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
In this day and age…WHY are you thinking such archaic thoughts??! Masturbation is totally normal and healthy. It releases sexual urges that can’t be expressed elsewhere (due to time, place, etc.).
Only the Church says that masturbation is "wrong" and look how many of THOSE guys are screwed up…hitting on young boys and even molesting them! If they masturbated, maybe they wouldn’t feel the urge to ruin the lives of young boys!!!
Man…WHAT religion were you raised in??!
Also, most girls and women understand that masturbation is NOT an "insult" to them (they do it too, with increasing frequency).
No offense, buddy, but it’s like you crawled out of a cave during the Middle ages and wound up here! Times have changed & people recognize that sexual urges are healthy, even if they’re not channeled into intercourse…that’s what masturbation is for!
PLEASE…do yourself a favor and get some therapeutic help! (not from the priests, tho’!). You are TOTALLY normal and healthy, except for your whacked belief that you must repress your sexual urges! WHO told you that, anyway???!
Let your fantasies go wild…are they hurting anyone? Fantasize all you want and if you stay a virgin ’til your wedding night (NOT something I recommend, but to each his own)…then you’ll have one heck of a time…I hope…).
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
You either master your thoughts, or you allow yourself to masturbate which is a perfectly normal thing to do and in no way an insult to your girlfriend. It is also normal to fantasize with or without your girlfriend. Maybe if you explain them to her she can help you act them out.
Hopefully these aren’t bad thoughts like sex with children, in which case you should seek counseling to help you deal with them.
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
Your girlfriend should respect you for who you are.
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
Get a lobotomy!
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
it’s natural, some men are more sexual than others…don’t worry about it. you are young and should enjoy it. Do masturbate…it won;t hurt your woman as a matter of fact you can go longer with sex if you masturbate..lucky woman…you could have sex for hrs dude! but if u get sexual thoughts just have to masturbates…it’s ok. your woman should understand it.
July 18th, 2011 - 13:44
Has your girlfriend told you that when you masturbate she feels insulted? If not, then maybe this is just an unrealistic worry. Many of the other responses to your question have emphasized that masturbation is normal even if you have a girlfriend or wife. Believe them, and let it go. Today, most priests and ministers recognize the normality of masturbation. God did not make a mistake when he gave us sexual urges; nor did he make a mistake when he gave us ways to satisfy them.
However, if she has told you she feels insulted, it is a different issue. On the one hand, I wonder if she feels sexually neglected, and thinks that by satisfying yourself, you have less desire for sex with her? If that is the issue, that is what you should address. How can you make your sexual relationship better?
Another possibility is that she has a strong need to control you, and this is just one of a dozen examples of it. Are there other things she is telling you to do or not do–such as what time to go to bed, what to wear or not wear, micro-managing your driving, etc.? If that’s the case, then this has nothing to do with masturbation. It is about power and control issues, and those need to be addressed. Great relationships are collaborative; keep control of your own body and clearly define what is open for negotiation. It will be critical for you to set limits with her if you want a long term, mutually satisfying relationship. Couples counseling can be a great help here.
Good luck.