17Aug/10Off
Does anyone have any ideas on how to do the father/daughter dance, my dad is in a wheelchair,w/ limited cont.?
My dad has parkinsons and is also in a wheel chair. He can't really control his chair well....i mean he can enough to get around but that is about it (he has an electric chair). Any ideas of what to do? Even if anyone has some creative things besides the dance that I could do with my dad at the reception that would work too.
Oh i really like the idea of a picture slideshow....yea I am open to other ideas in place of the dance...thanks
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
I had a very similar situation. My dad is in an electric wheelchair and has very limited movement (on a vent too). We combined the mother/son, father/daughter dance and did it to one song (so there wouldn’t be too much attention on us). I think we used the Nat/Natalie Cole duet Unforgettable. My girl would have been a good choice too. Then I gave my dad a hug and held his hand and stood next to him. (I think I even held his hand and twirled around) My dad’s chair is really high so I could just put my arm around his shoulder while standing too. So in a way we danced. We were off to the side a bit while my husband and his mom were on the other side. You could even pull up a chair next to him and sway to the music that way. I did that because my dad would have been upset if he didn’t have the father/daughter "dance". Ask your dad what he would like to do. You may be surprised that he still wants to do it. If he doesn’t then you can do something else or just omit those dances from the day.
BTW – my brother did triple duty during the ceremony. He walked my mother in, then came back and wheeled my dad down the aisle for me as I walked next to him during the ceremony. He got my dad seated next to my mother and then took his place as a groomsman. You may want to designate someone to help you with that part of the day too.
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
How about a slide show of pictures of you and him as you grew up that could be played at a special time instead of a dance?
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
its difficult one huhhh…but if you are really a loving daugther to him and you really wanted to have him participated in the program, i would rather suggest "a-daughter-sings-to-her-father" or if you can’t sing very well, then, a short speech on how much u appreciate him will be very exciting
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
Do you really need to have a father daughter dance?
Why don’t you present your dad with a special gift.
Perhaps a slide show of photographs you have with your father in the years up to your wedding.
i will let you know if i come up with anymore ideas when i wake up in the morning.
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
I work as wedding DJ and have seen this work. I have seen the daughter sit on her fathers lap and she leaned in and hugged him the whole time while he moved his wheelchair around. I have also seen it where the father was able to stand up from his wheelchair using a walker, he stood there while his daughter just hugged him the whole time to the music. There was also one wedding I did where the father could not get out of his wheelchair, so instead of the dance, the bride sat next to her father on the dance floor while everyone watched a slideshow someone made of her and her father when she was a baby and other pictures of the both over the years. It was really sentimental and sweet and totally original for a wedding.
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
Well, I love the slideshow idea…there won’t be a dry eye in the room when that’s over. But if you’d rather keep it more upbeat and less sappy, I’d say that maybe instead of doing a father/daughter dance, you should maybe just get up and make a little speech, or possibly even a poem that you wrote or that someone else wrote that fits the occasion, to let him know how special and loved he is on your big day. Then all he’d have to do is sit there and smile at you!
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
At my brother’s wedding, I danced with my uncle in his wheelchair. It’s easier with a fast song, but slow songs were okay too. Dancing would also depend on your dad’s comfort level – can he raise his arms? If so, he doesn’t have to move his wheelchair; you can do a lot with your hands linked together but it takes confidence on your part as well, as you will "lead."
August 17th, 2010 - 08:07
I work in a nursing home so wheelchair dancing is something I’ve done a bit of! The idea of a slide show is a lovely one but he might want to dance with his little girl!
take a song like this Dance with my father http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvW6nuQ2B0s
some moves I do with those chairs are
he moves his chair forward you move backwards
he holds your hand or you touch his face as you move around the chair
You hold hands and move them from side to side
If he was in a normal wheelchair you could push and pull the chair to the music