Looking to end a life-long funk…?
Ok, so here's the deal. I am a 24 year old male, virgin, rapid cycling bipolar and far from attractive. It's been bad all of my life that has counted thus far, but this year is at an all time low, and I'm looking for a way to put an end to this rut. I have a lot going for me in the ways of intellect and talents, with an IQ of 160 and several artistic abilities, a lover of philosophy and the like, so I know that being happy is going to have to start with changing my attititude, and that is going to have to start with fixing the major physical problem areas. Lately, I've felt more and more physically compromised, and I'm starting to feel sick all the time.
So, I would like to have these first few questions addressed first and foremost:
- How can I keep myself in a determined mindset and prevent myself from making promises to myself that will inevitably falter? How do I keep my morale up?
- Can anyone give me some tips for a healthy diet that's easy to maintain and won't leave me feeling deprived and starved?
- Does anyone know any good treatments for acne? These Proactiv kits and other things like them seem to work, but it just seems that the answer should be simpler. Are there any other effective, cheaper and more practical alternatives? What abotu body acne?
- What are some daily routines that I should make habits in order to achieve a healthy weight and healthy skin?
Thanks to anyone who can help me. And please, serious answers only. No flamers, trolls, jokes or insults. I understand where my problem areas are, I only seek a way to get better.
August 6th, 2010 - 10:13
Well, I am 25 years old and still have acne. :-( I tried alot of stuff and it only left my skin dry and broken out. dry skin is starting to turn into wrinkles. It sucks. I don’t know if there really is a solution.
As far as the mindset thing I know how you feel. Alot has happened in my life to make it depressing. I just try to do what is right for me and not care about what others think. I know it’s hard and can become boring and monotonous but that’s why I challenge myself. I don’t know how old you are, but for example, I quit my horrible job and started one that I can actually enjoy. I also just became a first-time homeowner. My point here is to try to keep yourself busy and challenge yourself everyday. After you’ve overcome challenges you start to build self-esteem that says, "Who effing cares what others think! I have all I need and I’ve done it by myself!" you start to feel good about that and it drags you out of depression.
You don’t neccesarily have to make false promises to yourslef, but try to set goals. My goals were to get a new job, etc. and it took me a year, but that’s ok. You can have short-term and long-term goals.
I’ve also tried Zoloft. That was good for the amount of time I used it (About 6 months) but you don’t want to get depepndant on it. It speeds up your mind and makes you not want to just sit around and be depressed. Makes you clean, go out and do things, etc to take your energy off negative focus. You need to see a Dr. to see if anything would fit your needs though.
I have think I have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disroder) – I get depressed in the winter. But having enough light and getting out and about helps with that too.
As far as the diet goes, try to eat fruits, vegetables, and meats that are not fried or oily. Fish is great and improves brian function! Try to only drink water.
Unfortunately I think that acne and possibly weight are hereditary so while you might not get a solution to these problems easily, eating better and doing what you think works will make you FEEL better and that’s what counts.
Why don’t you start putting your artwork in shows or doing something you absolutely love?
– in response to your other question, the one you ranked me as top answer, I don’t have access to yahoo e.mail at work. The only thing I can do is get on YA! :-(
August 6th, 2010 - 10:13
As far as keeping moral up, I have physically written out a note card of "things to be happy about" that I keep in my wallet.
For acne I use a cream called Differin that seems to be working, it takes a while to see some real effects but for me it works.
August 6th, 2010 - 10:13
I’m in a somewhat similar situation, though I’m a girl. Things have gotten better for me after a while though. I think one thing that helped me out was going to Weight Watchers.
I know what you’re probably thinking… "Old ladies club." Well, it’s not necessarily true. There are a few men at my meeting, and I find them to be doing remarkably well. The ones who have stuck with it have lost all of their weight and never felt deprived.
I’ve lost 60 lbs by going to WW meetings, and not only that, but I’ve met a couple people my age who I consider to be friends, and I’ve gained more confidence in myself. I went there with my guy friend (22 years old), who went from a 280 to 199 (as of this week). He’s 6’1" and it took him about a year. He’s really learned good habits that I think will last a lifetime.
In addition, the better diet has helped my acne problem that I had a few years ago. I still have some breakouts related to my hormones, but it’s by far much better.
WW also has a website with a free forum. There’s a men’s forum that is particularly helpful for guys who are just starting out. Very awesome people there, and totally free, so even if you’re not in the program it’s still a cool site.
Now, I’m not trying to sell you Weight Watchers or anything like that. It’s just helped me out quite a lot in my life, and my guy friend as well. You learn how to have a mindset and a morale that will keep you afloat, and when times are bad, you have the support of everyone there.
The food part of WW isn’t complicated and there’s a system where you count points (a representation of calories + fat + fiber) and a system where you don’t count anything and eat from a pretty healthy list. You can still eat fast food – I have taco bell at least twice a week. You just learn how to make your food choices better. :)
So, other than that, I have tried pretty much all the acne medications out there. I think the antibiotic creams that a dermatologist gives are the best, but they are also the most annoying.
Good luck on your journey. Know that you are worth it.