I feel depressed whats wrong with me?
I only eat low calorie low fat and healthy foods. I walk an average of 6 miles a day. I cleanse my skin every morning and night and apply expensive acne spot treatments. I exfoliate once a week. I buy expensive deep conditioners, I dont use any heat products on my hair. I use hot oil treatments, deep conditioners, and natural oils to restore my hair to the condition it was. I really do take care of myself but its as if I'm doing nothing. My skin has been breaking out, I have all this extra body fat and my hair is dry and ugly. I hate myself, I'm so unsatisfied. Its not fair that I try so hard when people who dont even have to try can be so beautiful. What can I do?
Here is a photo that shows my fat tummy, my dry hair, and my bad skin.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v111/tomwellingluvsme/werkit004.jpg
NOO im not joking I dont get why anyone would think that...
To whoever said I was attention seeking. THAT IS LAUGHABLE. When someone out there has a real problem, dont shoot them down because they didnt follow the specific pattern of behavior that you did when you were depressed. Thats ridiculous. I'm seeking advice. I want to know if there is something wrong with me. For someone to try and try and try to better themselves and to see no results. It's literally driving me crazy. I'm just so unhappy when I get on a scale or look in a mirror. I cant even feel pretty with makeup on anymore. I just feel so gross. So please do not tell me that I am out here seeking attention. I may not hide under a rock like you did, but yeah. I know what I feel.
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
You must be kidding
I think your quit beautiful you are skinny and well proportioned as for your skin a dermatologist can help fix the easily and you may just hav an allergy of some kind like maybe the oil treatments may have something your allergic to but as for you being ugly that simply isn’t true that is your self image you have developed of your self Stop self hating you really must learn to love who and what you are or you are going to make your on life a living hell that is just not right to do that to your self YOU are beautiful,smart ,funny, sweet never dog your self out like that the world is hard enough with out making it harder for your self meet each day the same way with this I am me II am who I am I will be who I want to be with the power with in me I am a great person I am beautiful I am sweet and I am loved because I love me and what I stand for is good enough I will not except anything other than what I deserve the best that the world has to offer and I will always love me no matter what because I deserve that love I will not judge me harshly for I am a just person and deserve to here the truth
best of luck hope this helps
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
Your joking about this right if not then you have low serotonin see a doctor you have low self esteem coupled with BDD.
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
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January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
Hey
for one thing you are beautiful dont, tell your sef that you dont look good, having acne is some times just somthing that happens, i even have it but i have gotten used to the fact that it takes time for it to go away, and trust me you are not fat your beautiful hope this helps
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
Don’t worry about looking like other people, just try to be yourself.
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
What the…?! what’s wrong with you is that you have low self-esteem cos you’re really pretty! I see no ugliness or fatness at all!
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
If our not joking then chances are your suffering from depression and you need to take anti depressants. Anti depressants work on the serotonin that regulates our mood
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
You are depressed because you are working so hard at accomplishing a task and you are seeing little or no results. Being so hard on yourself and trying to measure up with others will lead to depression. You are working on the outside of the yourself and neglecting your inside. You need to accept yourself for who you are then do the best you can to improve what you do not like. If your efforts do not work, then at least you know that you accept yourself and are at peace with that. You look fine to me. Hot oil treatments use to damage my hair. I have baby fine hair. I use natural shampoos on my hair now and it is beautiful. I would recommend that you use Nara Hair Products. The shampoo is the best! You may need Omega 3 fatty acid and Omega 6 fatty acid in your diet. You need to have a little fat in your diet…your brain, hair and skin needs it. You need to do some research on the good fats. I will recommend flaxseed oil, vitamin e oil and walnut to be a part of your diet. I wash my face with Neutrogena DEEP CLEAN facial cleanser 6.7 fl oz, only this type of Neutrogena works for me, and with cold water and it cleared up my face. Expensive products didn’t work for me. I use 100% organic shea butter in my hair, face, and skin and it work wonders for me. You should give it a try. Some expensive product do have alot of chemicals, and maybe that is what is working against you. You should try natural products if you haven’t already.
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
Its called "attention seeking". No one feeling that low about themselves would post a photo for the world to see, as someone feeling as genuinely depressed as you say you are, would not want the picture to be seen or judged by others. I know I’m going to get a few thumbs down but oh well, this is how i feel.
Ok, you want genuine advice? Go to a doctor. get a proper diagnosis from a qualified medical practitioner, or therapist if you feel the need, instead of posting photos all over the net. Stop putting excessive amounts of products on your hair and skin, try and leave it natural for a couple of days, and dont wash your hair so often, it may be that you just have extremly dry hair like i do. mines awful, but its not the end of the world. its hair. look at those who have lost theres through chemo and alopecia. Eat a balanced diet, a little fat is good for you. Sorry if i offended you, and I know depression is very real, (my auntie killed herself a couple of years ago so i dont deny the fact that depression is awful). You need to take stock of your life, focus on the good things you have, and dont be so shallow (which is what you are doing, focusing on what you look like, not who you are and all your good attributes – of which i’m sure there are many) your question just came across as a bratty teenager wanting attention, a bit like my sister. Again, I apologise.
EDIT "forgot to mention that they did an x-ray of my lungs and everything looked normal and also i very rarely excercise but im like normal weight I guess… skinny but a tiny belly and love handles…" This is what you wrote in one of your previous questions… all of which are health related. " I sometimes feel i cant breathe" "i have a headache and there is something wrong with my eyes" "i need to pee loads – is this normal" "will i lose weight on this diet"
I stand by my original gut feeling. You simply like the attention of people sympathising with you when you are ill. (check out her profile……)
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
Hi there! Your pic looks nice! I don’t see any excess body fat. In fact your pelvic bones are visible. So you’re certainly not a chubby chic! You look lean and healthy to me.
It’s good that you’re exercising. Regular exercise helps improve mood and keeps you fit. What you could do is vary the type of exercise. Pilates is excellent for tightening and lengthing the abdominal muscles. My physical therapist introduced me to pilates because of my back problem. I was told to engage my "core" as often as possible. Except when I’m sleeping…geesh! Since I’ve been doing these exercises I’ve noticed that my abs are a lot firmer than before! These exercises seem effortless so I’m really surprised with the results!
Now about your dry hair. It could be from overprocessing. If you’re coloring it or bleaching it often that could be the cause of the dryness. BTW, the browns are really popular now. If you tone your hair closer to its natural color it will be less harsh on the hair. I used to be a blondie but switched back to a brown shade that’s closer to my natural color.
I use the John Freida Beautiful Brunette products to tame my frizzies. There’s also a line of products for blondes. I use the Satin Shine or the Sleek and Shine from the Blonde line. The Shine Shock that I apply to my hair when it’s damp really gives me a lot of shine!
As for the acne and hating yourself, you should tell your doctor about these issues. There are some excellent prescription acne medications and other meds that can improve depression and mood problems.
Your "problems" aren’t as bad as they seem. So cheer up, ok? ;-)
January 20th, 2011 - 23:25
Depression, which is caused by the misfiring of neurotransmitters in the brain – causing chemical imbalances of serotonin, and other important neurotranmitters which balance emotions is a serious issue. Psychology/Philosophy state that depression is a unwholesome state which we ‘can’ work through in order to experience greater levels of happiness. Dr Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD along with Psychologists Mark Williams, John Teasdale, and Zindel Segal have authored an excellent book called: "The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness". If you or anyone else you know has ever struggled with depression, take heart. Mindfulness, a simple yet powerful way of paying attention to your most difficult emotions and life experiences, can help you break the cycle of chronic unhappiness once and for all, that you may experience greater levels of happiness. In ‘The Mindful Way through Depression’, it is explained why our usual attempts to "think" our way out of a bad mood or "just snap out of it" leads us deeper into the downward spiral of depression. Through very insightful lessons-drawn from both mindfulness meditative traditions and cognitive therapy – Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD and Psychologists- Mark Williams, John Teasdale, and Zindel Segal demonstrate how to sidestep the negative habits that lead to unhappiness and despair, including self-blame and rumination so you can effectively face life’s challenges with much resilience. This book has helped me a great deal with depression, as well as the challenges in daily life.