I don't know what to do anymore with my life?
im a 16 yr old kid. i drive, i have a lot of friends, im active in sports, im pretty popular. but here come the bad stuff.
im not all that attractive. i have severe back and chest acne. its really startin to get to me. now that its getting closer to the summer. i cant take my shirt off around anybody. i just got into the best basketball camp in the state for free. but it requires playing shirts and skins. i dont know what to do.then when it comes to girls.i always end up making a friend instead of a girlfriend. i have so many friends that are girls that its not even funny...my best friend just hooked up with the girl i like. i also have a lot of problems at home that i dont tell anyone..my dad cheats on my mom..they are always fighting.. then we dont have a lot of money.. theres just so many things going on that i cant take it anymore. lately all i been thinking about is killing myself. i dont wanto but i just cant cope with my life anymore. someone tell me wht to do. plz dont be rude
theres more id like to say but it cant fit. if only i had a way to get rid of my acne everything would get better. i tried everything nothing works. i spent a lot of money on dermetologists and nobody ever gave me anything good.
no proactiv doesnt work. its a bunch of bull. and the thing is i have to find somethin to help my acne in less than a month. because thats when the camp starts and it goes throughout the whole summer. my dream is to make the basketball team. im better than half the guys on it. but i cant participate in anything because of my damn acne. and for my love life..its just getting to me because all my friends are dating someone and i cant just sit there and watch them. all the girls that are my friends dont like me like that.. i just dont know man. oh and my dad is a dumba** he abuses my mom and tries to get to me but i fight back. i try to help my mom but he gets to her when im at school or when im gone. and she doesnt wanna divorce. and i swear imma good person. i try to help ppl as much as i can. i volunteer whenever i can. im a 3.9 GPA student. but whenever i want something. it never goes my way. i just cant win...
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
Trust me, it’s not just your acne.
I have perfectly clear skin, but all that crap goes on at my house.
Please, please don’t kill yourself.
I’ve been there, it’s horrible.
800-784-2433
Honestly, these people can help.
It’s completely free.
Please, don’t do that.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
please do not kill yourself. recently one of my classmates committed suicide and i’ve just been torn apart. and i barely knew him. things will get better, i promise. just have faith! and God will take care of the rest. girls nowadays prefer personality over looks. they would rather date a guy for a personality than merely just for his looks because you lose passion/exitement with just attractiveness.
keep ya head up! you’ll be ok. i’ve had times like this, there’s no reason you won’t be able to survive if i did!
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
haha..(had same problem..just it was face not back and stuff)…im sure u have health inssurance…i went to get shots for 3 months that would cost over 2 grand..but insurrace covered it…and it cleared me up like magic
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
Keep trying to find some acne stuff, but your acne won;t be there for forever. And DONT kill yourself. Did you know that after someone tries to kill their self be taking a lot of pills that 95% of them don’t want to die anymore? There is a lot of things you hav’nt done if you are only 16. Ask out one of those girls that are your friends if you like them.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
did u try proactive?…i also heard somewhere that if u put toothpaste on ur acne it will get rid of it..im not sure if this is true i never triedd it
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
im really sorry to hear that. i kinda feel the same way too. but killing yourself or harming your body doenst fix the problem. i think that you should be comfortable with your body because there is somone out there that loves your flaws it just takes awhile to find her. i hope that you can get past how your feeeling and maybe try talking to a girl and tell her how your feeling inside and maybe she would wanna talk to you on a relationship level. i hoped i helped in some way.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
I can help you with most of your problems, just add me on your messenger (I’m not messing around).
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
‘Don’t even think about taking your life. There’s not enough nice people in the world and we need all that we can get. You sound like such a nice and sincere person and so many people would be so sad if anything happened to you. You probably don’t think of all the people you would effect. And it sounds like your mom really needs you right now. I sometimes feel like I don’t matter but I have to think about my 2 sons and it would hurt them so much.
There’s a commercial on TV, I think its call Proactive, try that. Its seems like it works for so many people.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
your acene will get better when u get older dont worry and killing yourself i think every1 has thought about dont do it u have alot 2 live 4 girls dont worry u have enough time for them let them come to u and for camp tell ur coach u have a skin problem and you cant take off your shirt have maybe your mom or dad write a letter saying that they dont want u taking off yourshirt because of it. and for them fighting every parents fight be lucky u no them not every does all u have do is stay out of it stay 2 yourself hang out with friends all day or stay in your room and play games listen music so u cant hear them
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
I want to address the Acne issue. I’d say keep trying to find a cure. There’s heaps of treatments out there that are available now. Besides, acne sometimes goes away.
I am sure that there are options out there that you havn’t explored. Don’t give up, Never give up. That means you lose and they win.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
hey, i hope it all gets better. try praying, i know it sounds stupid, but its not. it really does work. it helps me to know that atleast 1 person cares. why dont you try to talk to your dad and ask him to stop. or tell your mom. you could get a job, im only 13 and everyone in my class is 14 or 15 so they all have jobs, so im left out. haha. and for the acne. uhmm idk im not an expert, but you could get some pro active, ive heard that works. or just shower daily, which u prolly do already. your mom probably has some skin stuf. use some of that when shes not looking haha jk. and with the girls, just act a little more flirty around them. if you want someone to talk to when your feeling like killin urself just call up one of your friends that is a girl that you trust wont tell other people. most girls love it when a guy needs their advice or needs to talk to them. or if that doesnt work you can email or im me if you want. hope i helped.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
Take one step at a time.
You can’t look at the whole world all at once.
You have summer ahead of you and your family have money needs, get a job and put most of it in the family money pot.
Its time you learned about budgets and money, and all this will help you later in life.
As for your dad talk to him about what is going on with him make sure he is cheating before you confront him. if you have to stand up.
Try to get the whole family to go to a Pastoral counselor.
Life never fits in a mold and life charges as time goes on.
If you kill yourself you’ll miss what God has for you over the hill.
Life can be fun it may take a long time to see it but life is life and you and God are the ones in the driver seat.
I hope this helps.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
listen you have your whole life ahead of you, a lot of people go through hard times. Just like what your going through. First of all what will help with your back and chest is to go to the doctor, let them know about it and they will give you medication for it, I have the exact same problem. They will most likely tell you to use a certain cream for a certain amount of time. The cause of the break out may be from a certain type of body wash, shampoo, soap etc. so check that out too. also another good way to help get rid of your irritation is to go to the tanning salon a few times, this really helps me.
Keep working hard at your basketball, because once you get in there it’s not your looks that matter, it’s how good you play the game. This is a great opportunity for you, you got it now and you can work hard and be the best you can be and that’s what will matter in the end!
The right girl will come to you, don’t worry she’s out there. Continue making lots of friends, thats important. If you really like a girl, let her know.
I want to tell you a story. A good friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer when he was 13 years old. This was 6 years ago. He woke up one morning and wasn’t able to walk, he spent his 13th birthday in the hospital, going through all the different treatments, with 3 surgerys on his back leaving a big scar. After he fought through it he went on a wish trip, and when he got back home about a year later his mom was rushed to the hospital. They found out that she had a brain tumor. She’s been in and out of the hospital having to go through so many surgerys. Thats all that family ever seen in the last 6 years was the hospital and sickness. His mother passed away 3 weeks ago. He’s going through a hard time now and I’m trying to help him out with the same kind of feelings your having. Everyone goes through hard times.. and no it isn’t fair. My best friend’s parents just split up. Her mom left her dad for another guy. She’s going through a hard time too, but the best thing to do in these situations is to be around your friends and people you love. Tell your parents how their relationship is affecting you. Tell them how you feel. You really don’t want to do anything to yourself. you can get through this, there are so many good things coming your way.. trust me if you focus on doing your best and keep reminding yourself of all the things you are thankful for, good things will hapen. Don’t think in a negative way because it just prushes the good things away. Think positive, and have faith in everything you do. And know that there are so so so many people around you that love you so much, and believe it or not you make their lives so much better because your there. You are someone, you are on this earth for a reason! God bless you. and Good luck!
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
Just try & concentrate on all the best things you have ever done in your life,you will be surprised,also all those joyful moments you have brought to peoples lives this will leave a fine memories through reminiscing………………….throw out those negative cobwebs that are stiffling your thoughts & concentrate on the good vibes that come your way.
you are still young and have a lot to learn about life…………..so today/tonight ring up your best mate and ask them if you could go around to their house with a six pack and get something off your chest ? your good friend wont knock you back. Think about it after your discussion with your mate you"ll feel better about yourself & worries.
September 8th, 2010 - 09:37
Based on what you’re saying, I think you are probably a lot more critical of yourself than others would be. If a girl really likes you, that’s not going to change when you take your shirt off in front of her. My recommendation would be to pick an appropriate time – a warm day when you’re outside together and just ask her if she would mind if you take your shirt off. Of course respect her wishes, but if she says it’s OK then just do it. I’m guessing she might really appreciate that you were willing to do that for her. It will be much easier the second time. Another way might be to invite her to the pool or the beach – some place where going without a shirt is the normal thing to do.
And if she does react negatively, you will at least have learned that she has all the wrong priorities – so, in that case, you wouldn’t want her anyway.
Trust me, I used to be the same way – I was afraid for anybody – especially a girl – to see me with my shirt off. Now I go without a shirt in front of women all the time – in fact just two hours ago I ran shirtless with my female co-worker. We both thoroughly enjoyed it. And I don’t have a super great body – just average. As you probably know, the acne will go away with time and, when it does, it will be that much more natural and comfortable to go shirtless.
Same kind of thing about playing shirts and skins basketball. If you can play, nobody is going to care whether you have some acne on your chest or not.
So I think it’s all about building your self esteem. You have a lot going for you – so don’t be afraid of going shirtless. The first time will probably be the hardest, but with the right girl it will get easier and more comfortable after that.
Good luck – and let us know how it goes.